My mom and I have not always had the best relationship. Growing up, I was a nightmare of a child to say the least. I was mouthy, stubborn, and didn’t listen worth shit. Whatever she told me, I would do the opposite. Whatever advise she had to offer, it was going in one ear and out the other. I had a skull thicker than a coconut, and I wasn’t going to let my mother crack into it no matter how hard she tried. I was an independent teenager who didn’t need no parents – just like I totally didn’t need to pull my shirt down overtop of my belly button. Looking back I regret those precious could have been moments where guidance from the woman who was secretly always right would’ve been so helpful.
Mothers are an important asset to their daughters lives – little girls grow up watching their every move, aspiring to be half the woman their mom is one day. Now being very much a tom-boy as a child, I can’t say that I watched in aw as my idol put on her makeup in the mirror. But, I did admire her strong ability to conquer just about everything else – mountain of laundry – handled – home cooked meal every night for dinner – no problem – basketball practice, homework, and a science project – got it covered. As kids we sink into this mindset that moms really are superhero’s who can handle anything that you throw at them, that they’re some how indestructible. Over the last few years, I have come to acknowledge and really listen to the grumbles of not only my own mothers stresses, but also the mothers I interact with on a daily basis. I have compiled a short list of to-do’s that I feel in some way, shape, or form will keep you from pissing your own mother off any further.
- Listen to her requests the first time – My brother and I were notorious for “forgetting” to take dinner out of the freezer, switch the laundry from the washer to the dryer, and of course vacuuming the living room when asked 8 hours prior. Now, we all know that these requests can be done quickly and easily, so put the phone down for a hot second and do them when you’re asked. You will thank me later.
- Offer her help – We all know that she is perfectly capable of doing 101 things at the same time on her own with no help – she truly is Wonder Woman. But, that does not mean that she wants to do all of these things solely on her own. The poor woman’s job is not to cater to your every move, she deserves to do things in life that also make her happy and fulfilled. So, pick up your dirty clothes, unload the dishwasher, make your own damn dinosaur nuggets and mac n cheese, and let her have a moment to breathe. Think about how many things your mom does for you in a day, or a week – by doing some of those things yourself, it allows for her to take a moment to replenish and continue to be the amazing human that she is.
- Do something for her – She does so much without even thinking to make sure you’re happy, healthy, and well taken care of. You can take 30 minutes out of your busy life to do something, anything for the woman who literally gave you life. Buy her flowers, take her to lunch, complement her outfit – do something that shows her that she is still the most important woman in your life.
- Listen to her advice – We all know that 99.9% of the time mom is always right. It is in your best interest to nod and agree, even if you think otherwise – yes, the green beans were indeed right in front of your face, you should’ve looked harder. I can’t tell you how many times as a child I argued with what my teenage brain thought was in my best interest, and of course in the long run, mom was always right. These ladies know what they’re talking about, they have physically pushed an 8 lb baby out of their body – let me tell you, they have seen a thing or two.
- Love her – Love her unconditionally. On her good days, on her hard days, on the days that going on seems impossible – love her.
Luckily, at age 25, I can proudly say that my mom is one of my closest and dearest friends, although I do get highly offended when she doesn’t pick up my phone calls on the first try. After all, I am her pride and joy. We did somehow make it through the angry teenage phase, and all of the times that I forgot to take chicken out for dinner – which I don’t think I have ever formally apologized for. I encourage those of you who still have the opportunity to learn from your mother, to take in every ounce of advice, pointless stories, and grumbling complaints with a grain of salt – we all know that we couldn’t make it through this crazy life without them.